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5. Tired of
the negative and "whatever " attitudes?
Why
are some kids cooperative and polite while others
are lazy and insolent? Why do some teens cheerfully
do their chores and homework without being asked to
while others do not? Are some parents just lucky or
do they know something the rest of us need to know?
Wherever
you go you will hear parents like the mom above asking
the same questions, "How do you get kids to clean
their rooms, do their homework, stop their fighting
and to just be pleasant around the home?"
There
are answers to such questions as these, but don't
look for the children to change until their parents
change. In the example above, mom will never get those
kids to do dishes (without a big hassle) when they
can watch TV instead, because kids prefer TV over
doing dishes. The cause of mom's real problem is that
she has put all three of her teenagers on Teenage
Retirement!
Teenage
Retirement is a term that describes the
attitude and lifestyle of children of any age who
do not earn anything, but instead are given everything.
These children typically do not learn to earn or save
much money. They develop a sense of entitlement, are
self-centered, ungrateful and usually lazy. They are
taught to be consumers and not producers as they learn
to be incompetent and dependent. Why should they work
or do anything? They have absolutely no need to work
or to be cooperative and pleasant at home, because
everything is just given to them.
Teenage
Retirement is a curse put upon children by
well-meaning but ignorant parents who believe that
good parents should provide everything they
possibly can for their children. These parents don't
realize the importance of work.
Kids
who are on Teenage Retirement
think they don't ever have to do anything. They can
act like they are independently wealthy. They have
such an abundance that they have no need to work for
anything. They know that everything will just automatically
be provided for them.
What are some of the results of putting children
and adolescents on teenage retirement?
These
children are unchallenged. They develop few virtues,
little appreciation, and develop a sense of entitlement,
which is the belief that they are entitled to everything.
They focus on their 'rights' and not on their responsibilities.
They become selfish, greedy, self-centered and wasteful.
Certainly one can see why. They require more and more
external stimulation to keep their attention. They
cannot see the need for study and work because, after
all isn't everything free?
These
youth can not understand why others get after them
to take personal responsibility for their rooms and
personal items. They resent parents and teachers who
expect them to work and to be accountable for their
choices. They do not want to be told what to do.
These
children often come to believe that they are victims
of society and not responsible for their actions.
They often complain about what they do not have. Teenage
retirement sets a child upon a course that often leads
to ultimate failure and misery.
Teenage
retirement is a curse upon our youth and the antithesis
of the ennobling work ethic and all it stands for.
Work is that principle which provides us with all
of life's commodities. It is a principle which develops
character, honesty, integrity, tenacity, appreciation
and more.
Kids on
teenage retirement develop no sense of value, no appreciation.
Teenage retirement is just a welfare program. Is this
what we want to teach our kids? They get lots of play
time and often become lazy, selfish, greedy and self-centered.
They want what they want now! They never learn to
defer gratification. They never learn to work!
How
to apply these principles to your kids:
Kudos! For Kids system teaches children to be
self reliant and changes poor attitudes to good
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